Cheesecake and Abortion topic

Yesterday we went and ate at a place called Kryp In in Gamla Stan, and it was super delicious! I didn't even have enough room for the amazing desert so I had squirm uncomfortably and just look at the half eaten wonderful cheesecake-in-a-jar that was trying to tell me "It's ok, just eat me! Don't bother about what your stomach is telling you!"

Cheesecake-in-a-jar

As the dinner was to celebrate our anniversary, we tried to remember all that has happened this past year. For some reason one always forgets how much has happened. Within a year we have:

• Moved twice
• Traveled abroad twice 
• Been to a wedding
• Looked for and bought an apartment
• Negotiated with banks
• Learnt to play Magic

This brings my total score of moves to 15, according to my Facebook profile.

There was a large group of Americans at the restaurant who were also talking very loudly about politics and especially about the question concerning abortion. This also became a topic for Matte and I to talk about. In Sweden abortion is not a very controversial issue. The law in Sweden is that the women may have an abortion, for any reason, up to the 18th week and after the 18th week there need to be special reasons and permission from Socialstyrelsen. 

Both Matte and I are pro-choice when it comes to abortion but that does not mean there were views and issues to talk about. Some questions we did talk about was 

• "Is it better with no life than a hard life?" "Does a mother have the right to decide that for a child?"
• "Is it irresponsible for a mother to keep a child if she cannot properly take care of him/her?" What responsibilities does a mother have to herself, her child and society?
• "If the new child risks the life of children already born, should the mother raise all of them at the risk of all of them dying prematurely (due to hunger, for example) or have an abortion to ensure that the ones already born can live safely?"

The last question above induced the more philosophical questions:

• Is two "ok" lives better than three "hard" lives?
• Is one "good" life better than two "ok" lives?

Tough questions and we didn't come up with any answers, but it was very interesting to talk about...